I cannot imagine what it would be like for me to lose my spouse of 42 years.

There are many widows and widowers here among us who have walked through that experience.

And therein lies the misconception — they are still walking through that experience.

Losing a spouse is not an “over and done” life event.

It can be a long, often lonely journey for the survivor.

A dear friend lost her husband 6 months ago after 61 years of marriage.

She called me last week just to talk about how hard it has been to continue by herself.

The loneliness she has felt is not surprising.

When they got married, they became “one flesh” as the Bible states in Genesis 2:24.

When half of that union is suddenly not there it is like an amputation without enough anesthesia.

To lose the love of your life that has been your partner 3 times the number of years you were single is traumatic.

But… your life must go on.

Your race has not been completed, and dropping out is not an option.

If you have lost a spouse, I want to encourage you from the sidelines to keep going.

You have many reasons to be the same person you have been for your children or grandchildren.

There are people who still need you to be their friend and see the testimony of your faith in God.

Plus, this is a chance for you to grow as a person.

As you are forced to do many things for the first time by yourself, you will be amazed by the gratification that comes with accomplishment.

I believe the key that unlocks the door of your grief prison is your own death.

The apostle Paul said, “I die daily.”

But you remain alive in Christ!

Cherish your memories of your life partner and celebrate the time you had together.

Sing the sing, “When we all get to heaven what a day of rejoicing that will be!”

Next Week: 40 days for life